It’s Not Fair!
Have you ever felt like that? It’s not right. You feel like you are getting the short end of the stick. Perhaps that a double standard is in play. Sometimes it is a laughable injustice (inconsequential in nature), but at other times it is a significant wrong. Whichever the case, how do we respond? It is tempting to react negatively, isn’t it? Have you ever, in the same vein as Ray Barone (Everybody Loves Raymond), put on the mopey demeanour in attempt to get those around you to feel sorry for you?
Playing the part of a victim, or legitimately viewing ourselves and feeling like a victim in the situation, is a lose-lose proposition. Nothing good can come of it. Feelings of inadequacy. Unhealthy dependencies. Depression. Pessimism. Anger. Distraction. Loss of sleep. Fear. The list could go on…
So if there is no benefit in being a victim, what is it that keeps us from moving from victim to victor? It boils down to identity. In a previous post we looked at Moses and the burning bush narrative, and we observed that identity is derived from outside of us. Identity is given, and we receive it. If we receive our identity from anyone (or anything) other than our Heavenly Father, we are in for oppression and settling for second best. If we receive our worth from accomplishments, people’s approval, or things, then we are in for a rough ride. As long as we submit to and permit others to label us, we are slaves to them. When we tie ourselves to anything imperfect, we set ourselves up to be victimized sooner or later.
However, there is hope! Things can change in an instant. If this issue is at heart an identity thing, then by re-aligning our allegiance we can be overcomers. Almost every story in Scripture seems to have a potential victim in the plot. Sometimes they responded as victims, but often-through the grace of God-they were victors instead. The poster boy for victim may be King Saul! In stark contrast we have many overcomers: Joseph, Moses, David, Daniel, Mary, Paul, and of course Jesus.
This blog is dedicated to exploring the biblical themes of Covenant and Kingdom (a.k.a. relationship and responsibility). Identity is a relationship issue. Paul writes in Romans 8:37: “No, despite all these things, overwhelming victory is ours through Christ, who loved us.” Victory is ours through the cross. Our Heavenly Father gives to us a clear record, the forgiveness of sins, the right to be called children of God, through the grace we receive in Jesus. It is a gift of God, not something we can earn. We are loved no more or no less based on what we do or not do. What a marvelous truth. That truth should set us free. Our value and worth isn’t dependent on our striving. Our Heavenly Father’s love for us should lead us to feeling secure. The fact our Heavenly Father is the King of the Universe should fill us with confidence that His Bigness can overcome that which would tempt us to live as victims.
The Great Salvation God provides means that I am no longer a victim of sin and circumstance, but can be victorious through him who loves me.